Weekend Jams



Summer Grooming, Anyone?

I showered, shaved, threw on my suit, and within seconds of stepping outside, began to sweat immediately.  Summer weather is here!  It’s official.  I made sure to go tie-less today as well as sock-less to keep the sweating to a minimum.  Don’t mistake my comments for complaints, I am the biggest warm weather fan in the world!  I am so excited for the weather to come.

With summer, comes different looks, styles, wardrobes, skin colors and more.  Everyone is starting to look and feel a little better as the warm weather continues to spread.  You may find yourself asking, “What new look can I go for this summer?  Should I grow my hair or cut it?  Shave or be scruffy?  Keep the hamburger meat or go baby smooth?  Ditch the ball fro or keep it retro?”  Not to worry, come summer time, people find themselves wondering these things and here is my advice.

When it comes to grooming, there is a fine line between too much and just right.  No woman wants to see a man more manicured than she is.  However, this does not mean you shouldn’t take care of business when it needs to be taken care of.


I have decided I’m growing the flow this summer.  Some people like to keep their hair short for the warm weather so that they will stay cool, and I have been a user of that strategy, but not this summer.  I’m letting it go until I can pass for a Cali surfer.  But what should you do?  As always, my advice is to change things up.  I have had the high and tight “Mad Men” haircut for the past year or so, which is why I want to grow out my piece.  757cc4045692cca5617ab1b7ab70276f-1

So if you are one of those who has had the same hair cut for too long here’s my advice.  Grow it out or dramatically cut it.  Being in Buffalo I see horrid hair cuts constantly.  The ‘same lengthy all around look’ is really unacceptable these days.  If you want to cut it, go for the high and tight look that most cast members of The Great Gatsby were seen with.  If you want to grow it, commit to it and trim it on your own in spots where it gets too fluffy.  9ed1aeacf082b48d74eded7597569013


If you’re clean shaven on a regular basis, do yourself a favor and grow that scruff when you can.  Every man looks better with facial hair during the summer.  cbe47befee6e43804581e9cce743d0cc


One of my buddies has more or less trademarked his chest hair.  My friends and I always commented on it back when he was my roommate and he’d strut around shirtless.  Then, one day he sent us a picture of he and his girl on the beach with his chest shaven and asked us to see what was different.  It took about a second for us to notice.  It was hysterical. Shaving-Chest-Hair1

When it comes to grooming, you can grow it, trim it, or bic it.  I bic it, and I catch some shit from time to time for it, but I just like how I look with a cleaner chest and stomach.  There’s really no right or wrong here, but my advice is to trim it down with an electric razor and see how you feel.  Go dramatic after that and razor it baby clean!

Below the Belt:

It’s summer.  Body hair makes you sweat.  Do yourself and whoever else may be down there a favor and keep it clean.  Again, similar to the chest, buzz it electrically first and then go all out when you’re ready.  For hygiene purposes alone, this is the right move. d5096bf17c2384921e294c4df6bff27b

Eyebrows, nails, etc.:

As I stated before, no girl wants their man more manicured than she.  So pluck the brows, but don’t wax or shave them to a point that they look silly.  Men are supposed to look rugged, keep that in mind.  No manicures or pedicures!  Ever!

Break Dress Code and Stand Out!

I took a trip to Phoenix, Arizona a few years ago and visited a partnered company of ours.  In it, I met all the employees, who were all  great people.  The office dress code is business casual, meaning, decent shoes, a pair of khakis or dress pants, and a button down shirt (for men).   There were a total of 8 or so workers in the office, but one man particularly stood out to me.  My immediate impression of him was that he was a top salesmen (placement agent), made more money than everyone else, and aside from the boss, he had the most authority in the office.  “Why?” you ask…  The guy was dressed impeccably better than everyone else in the office.  He wore elegant, tailored clothing, a shirt and tie, polished shoes, and enjoyed suiting up as opposed to looking like everyone else. overdressed-penguin-25544-1260466420-74

439393c9cd9a93b976e53c4ce0a1dd67Just because the dress code in your office is casual, does not mean you can’t be better than casual.  Be better than casual!  Wear your sport coats and suits, wear ties when they are not needed, keep a pocket square in your bag at all times, wear those awesome socks you just bought, tailor your clothing, lint brush yourself before you leave, read J Norman Post, and in doing such, get yourself to dress, feel, and look the way you are more than capable of doing!  Yes, you are going to feel uncomfortable the first time you do it.  Yes, you are going to stand out the first time you do it.  But know this: Your discomfort will turn into confidence and you will be standing out for all the right reasons!!!81bc1cd2248c1aa8eaf7c4ccd1664bcf

I am so sick of advising people how to dress in the office and they simply won’t listen to me because they are scared of change!  I have a friend  who’s name I will leave anonymous who has a very nice wardrobe, and is one of few men who will spend a lot of money on this particular wardrobe, but doesn’t utilize it at work.  If you are like my infamous subject, stop buying 20 pairs of shoes, and invest in a few sport coats and tailored suits.  And most importantly, wear them!  Even if you are too nervous to wear a suit, there are other ways to dress it up, while still remaining casual (like so):5e1ef85992898bccf43d3b22bd468691

Remember though, a suit or jacket can still be causal:


I really, truly do understand that you literally feel like you cannot do it.  You work with 2,000 people and literally all of them dress the exact same.  Well, here’s some news and advice: Trend setting is a very admirable trait/act that very few people are able to conquer.  Most men and women simply follow the yellow brick road in their wardrobes and often times in their daily activities.  I’m here screaming to you, to be different, to let yourself stand out for the right reasons, to try and look good because it will make you feel good.197454d0ca68d92ad3a77f46bc04cc65

Pocket Rockets

This summer, it is essential to your ‘Dapper-Dan look,’ that you take that extra step to doing it right.  What is that step you ask?  Add a pocket square to your repertoire. 

It amazes me when I indulge in conversation with men who are trying to revive themselves as style icons, who simply refuse to wear a pocket square.  It’s so simple and it stands out so much.  Here are some tricks and rules to the pocket square styles this summer:

1. Bandanas are the new pocket squares: This doesn’t mean only bandanas can be worn as pocket squares, but instead means you should never ever again wear one on your head.  Rather, find the proper folding or stuffing method and put it to good use, like this:555a69e5d352ca7a630711132a15d9adeaa1f2b0e101e3b825fcf031bedd6eb32. Trimmed Pocket Squares: The colored trim on a pocket square should compliment your suit/shirt/tie.  It DOES NOT NEED TO MATCH.  As I have stated in previous posts, it is better when it doesn’t match, but instead should cooperate.a95d5327770ccc179549d4c582fd52ba


3. Polka Polka!  That polka dot pattern should not be saved simply for your tie.  Let it fly in and out of your pocket…  It dazzles with every sort of shirt.b2b66203cb76e1c6ce5701c3ab2d01e6f72d4802a4ca58a2e3875e4b01735d914. Plaid is rad: Dazzle with a plaid pocket square and a checkered shirt.  Or a plain shirt.  Or a T-shirt!!  It works with almost anything.fd1b28744c96ed9ef9a5037f28ce7dbd519560c16db2522978270bddf1945c94

How To Stand Out This Wedding Season!

Modern day style has evolved so much from what it once was!  No longer are men satisfied with throwing on any pair of jeans with a button down shirt and shitty pair of shoes.  Men now days care about the way they look.  We are trimming, shaving, tapering, tailoring, hygiene-ing and more.  79903a8a1147c23f004d04bae6dfeec7

So you’ve got a wedding and are sick of looking like every other shmuck there?  I’ve already had a number of my buddies come to me for advice on what to wear and where to get it for weddings they wanted to dazzle in.  Here are some quick solutions:

Is the wedding a black tie event?  Meaning, are you required to wear a tux?  Here’s some news, black tie no longer means black tie.  Don’t forget about the midnight blue tux.  Also, the simplest solution can be as easy as changing your shirt.  Not keen on the penguin look?  Slap a pink shirt on your back with a black bow tie and… Boom!b2451329d15abcaef2280c942fcde8a0

Check out a plaid suit: I still don’t own one, but will be searching the web right after this post.  Find a plaid grey, black, or charcoal suit, and dazzle with a pair of wingtips and no socks.e82365bf1e1a70d81931153e3645a1d1

Khaki suits: Khaki suits can look oh so silky smooth in the summer!  A lot of people tend to fuck this look up with the shoes they wear.  Casual it down with a pair of Tretorns.  White or navy.  Trust me.  No socks!!!!49c9613c4fbc1c37d82e0654355b5955

Utilize Your Tie: If you’re going to wear a bow tie, wear a stylish one.  Being from Buffalo, whenever I see a bow tie at a wedding, it is usually from that “Yacht Club” look.  That meaning the tie is filled with all sorts of colors, designs, and is very Vineyard.  There is nothing wrong with these ties, but they just don’t scream, “Sleek.”  Wear some solids, some pale colors, some chambray materials.adc0572c9371760a2952ad89969928f9

Accessorize: It’s a wedding.  Bust out all of your tricks.  Pocket squares, tie bars, colored laces, nice watches, suit pins, cuff links, etc.  Go HAM! c6ef23f21b4ffec93bc6f4a5162b7d63

How Has No One Made The Roy Hibbert/Leon Comparison Yet?

photoI mean come on, right?  If it’s not close enough with how they look, just have a listen at how they talk:

Boom!  Roy Hibbert is Leon’s brother is what I’ve determined from this segment.  From the lisp, to the look, to the overall way they just seem to carry themselves, these two are hilariously similar, and I cannot believe that the comparison has not yet been made.

Next time you’re watching a postgame interview with Hibbert, quickly run to the YouTube clips for some Leon comparisons.  You’ll be in for a few laughs.  And if you aren’t familiar with Leon, these clips will be sure to amuse.